Today we are 2 days in the second month of Zcut Power Cardio Program and I just wanted to remind your of what we decided the first month already. Instead of having a day off, we are doing the Ab bonus workout, so no slacking ;)

I also wanted to talk to you about low self-esteem which is something that many girls and women have to deal with due to an unbalanced relationship or a mind set that creates negative thoughts about themselves. We all want to be attractive for our boyfriends or husbands and we all want to do everything to make ourselves pretty for them, which I think is normal and it’s great to have that motivation, however where do you draw the line? You still have to make sure that everything that you do to your body is what makes YOU happy, confident, and comfortable and not somebody else.

What separates couples from friends is the attraction that we call physical, however true love and attraction is in my opinion a special chemistry between two people, that has not much to do with the physical appearance. It’s hard to explain, you just love their scent, you love the way they walk, talk, laugh, smile, you love their personality so much, that nothing they do to their body or their face can ever change the way you feel. It’s just the most natural feeling you have, and that’s how you can tell it’s right.

Sometimes you may just think or assume that your boyfriend or husband is not happy with the way you look, just because he is not the type that gives a lot of compliments. That requires you to be more self-confident in who you are and what you stand for. Just remember, chemistry is not determined by your looks, it’s about your personality and confidence.

If your boyfriend or husband is asking you to change a lot of things about your looks including losing a lot of weight, you may ask yourself honestly if it’s worth it to you to change for someone who doesn’t really love you. He may like just the idea of you but not you as you are. Even if you do everything to make the person happy and change as much as they want you to, you won’t make him ever happy, because in reality he is just doing his best to fell in love with you by trying to change who you are. That will never happen. You are who you are and you deserve someone who will love you just as unconditionally as you love him. I am not saying that there is a perfect relationship and that you will find someone who will never drive you crazy. The person you love the most will usually drive you nuts the most, however if you are the right match with the right chemistry you will love each other no matter what will hit your path and you will push through it side by side.

Bottom line, the person that really loves you will be always concerned only about your health and not your looks, because the connection that you have is not about your looks. You do your exercise and watch your diet for your own reasons and values. Focus on your mental and emotional health instead of obsessing about your looks and you will see that your self esteem will improve in no time.

Love you girls, stay strong!