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How to Deal With Fat Shaming
Blog | December 28, 2013
There has been a lot of fat shaming going on lately on the internet and it’s something that has been bothering me and many women out there. I think it’s great that it’s being talked about in the media and recognized as a form of bullying. I personally can’t even understand why would someone want to leave a comment on other woman’s post just to tell her that she’s fat, looks unhealthy, and shouldn’t be proudly posting her photos on the internet. Some people are even publicly saying that being proud of your body, if you are overweight and obese, sends the wrong message to other women and children. I did this video for all of you who became a victim of such abuse, so that you know how to deal with fat shaming.
Your weight is not an indicator whether or not you’re healthy or fit. I’ve been friends with fairly overweight martial artists that are more agile, flexible, and faster than me. While there certainly has been connections between obesity and different kinds of health problems, the only person that has the right to tell you that you’re unhealthy is your doctor. Your family has the right to kick your butt into living a healthy lifestyle for sure, but no one should ever tell you not to be proud of your own body and make you feel ashamed.
Our health is really the most important thing. It’s not just about eating healthy and exercising tho, it’s also about your way of thinking. Keeping a positive attitude makes a huge difference in the quality of your life and decision making. That’s why it’s so important to deal with fat shaming in a positive way. Do not fight those immature people that may not be even realizing how abusive they are. It’s a waste of your energy and you don’t need another drama in your life. Just remember that you are a beautiful person in your own unique way, no matter how much you weigh or what you look like.
People don’t fall in love with “perfect bodies”. What makes someone love you is your amazing personality and your energy. That’s what makes you irreplaceable in a relationship. Not everyone may see your true beauty, but who cares! What matters is that you have people around you that love you and know who you really are. Your confidence and how you carry yourself is something way more important then your looks. Like I said in the video, do not wait to be proud of yourself and your body until you lose some weight. Body composition can not make you a truly confident person, because real confidence comes from within. Be proud, be brave, and show the world that you are more than happy with your body and that you are not ashamed to flaunt it in your selfies 🙂
XOXO
Zuzka
P.S. If you want to workout with me on a daily basis and feel amazing, then join the Zgym.
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I have prepped big time to do the clean & lean 14 day kickstart by James Duigan (trainer to Elle Mcpherson and Rosie Huntington-whitely.
I am going to incorporate some of your earlier Zwow’s as they were lighter and shorter and looking at the menu plans, I don’t think my energy will be as high.
It sounds a great way to kick sugar and my odd bad habits that creep up from weekend to weekend and over the holidays. Check the book out on Amazon, it was only a couple of dollars for the kindle version 🙂
Here’s to a warrior like year of fitness with Z and Clean eating with James.
Thanks xx
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Hi Zuzanna,
I stumbled upon your video on youtube and I just remembered how much I loved you when I heard your message !
Your points in this video ring so very true to me : your weight does not reflect your health ! I stopped working out about 2 years ago. Back then I was doing your workouts on bodyrock.
I’m a student and I was faced with a few obstacles and a big family quarrel. I felt trapped and alone, and that’s when I fell in depression quite badly. I pushed people away, I lost my appetite, I stopped engaging in activities that I liked, stopped working out, dropped out of college, developped social anxiety and lived like a cavewoman for a year at my mom’s place. I got helped 3 months ago, and now life is better.
Ironically though, the few people I saw during that awful time complimented me on my figure. Of course as I lost my appetite I lost a bit of weight. I would go several days without a proper meal and had no energy.
I’ve always been what people conventionnally call “slim”, but depression coupled with the loss of apetite made me “slimmer” and a lot of people automatically assumed I was healthier because to them healthy = conventionnally attractive and conventionally attractive = skinny.
I’m passed this noW and I got helped. At first it was hard to eat, because my stomach had shrunk and I felt really bloated after a meal. My metabolism was very low. I felt weak, tired and not fit at all. I felt disconnected from my body.
Anyway, I’m starting to work out with you again and I am glad I found you. I cook again, I feel hungry when I wake up. I’m dogsitting too and having dogs in my house forces me to do things. I’m planning to go to a business shcool for my master’s degree. I do not feel like I have reached a dead end anymore. I also know now that I am not my illness, and my illness is not my life. I’m learning how to keep it at bay.
But in my experience, I was very unhealthy when I lost weight ! You can’t tell health just by looking at someone, some people should know that.
I look forward to start taking care of my body again with you. The kick of endorphins will be very much appreciated too !
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I love you Zuzka, Thank you. =)You are my inspiration. I have been following you for a long time.
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Hi Zuzka,
I’ve started to work out with kettlebell few weeks ago (I bought 12 kg kettlebell). At first it was great and I felt really good after workout. But lately I’ve been feeling pain in my lower back and i think it may be caused by the kettlebell exercises. Do you think it is possible? And if so, is it because i’m doing the exercise wrong (bad posture) or maybe there’s something wrong with my back and I can’t do these type of workout.
I’m verry interested in your opinion and advice.
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Completely agree with you Zuzka….nobody should make others feel bad about the way they look. My question about this entire topic is…why does anyone feel the need to publicly post personal pictures on the internet of themselves on vacation or what have you? I’m sure the reply would be so family and friends can see what you’ve been up to. So why not send out an email to your family and friends to let them know about your vacation and attach some pics. You know? Why the need to put up personal stuff on the internet for the whole world to see and comment on. In my personal opinion, you’re just opening yourself up to this kind of crap. My 2 cents 🙂
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Wow, you simply got my attention here, thank you!
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there is no such thing as being perfect, simply because everyone’s taste is different.
Reminds me of a tunisian colleague stating that having bimbo girls style at a car show with mainly Middle-East men will not do the trick, because they prefer women differently! I like athletic style, but I know a lot of person don’t like when woman have strong arms and 6 pack abs! As long as you have a healthy living by moving, eating right and somehow flexible..we’ll go a long way!
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I’m writing this here because I’m not sure where else I should write it. I have hypothyroidism. I have been exercising regularly and try to eat well. I have never had major fluctuation in weight, but I also have a hard time shedding these 2-3 extra kilos. I am not fat. I am 1.64 cm and currently I weigh 65 kg. I am muscular but not completely toned, because of this little extra fat. In general, I do not consider myself fat. I have a very good physical condition and I like how my body looks, most of the time. However, since I came back to my hometown for holidays, after a 6 month absence, I have been hearing from everyone-and I mean everyone- that I have gotten fat. At first, I ignored it. Then, when I find myself sitting at a table with friends, and one person comes close to me and whispers “no offense, but you have put on some extra kilos, haven’t you?”, I feel devastated. It’s like out of nowhere, I keep hearing these comments about my bodyweight! I still feel okay with my body. What drives me crazy is the fact that I cannot understand why on earth would someone actually bother as to make a remark like this. Why?! Aren’t they thinking that they can hurt someone’s feelings, especially when this someone has been struggling A LOT to bring down her body fat percentage? And it’s hard because of hypothyroidism. I really don’t know what to do, this has been happening five days in a row now, it’s like someone’s playing a joke on me or something.
Have you guys ever experienced something similar? What did you do? I feel really, really shitty 🙁