Ugly days is something that affects most people and more commonly women. Actually if you are a human, there is a 99.9% chance that you’ve already experienced and ugly day. I’m sure you’ll be able to relate when I describe what exactly an ugly day is. It’s on that day, when you find yourself in front of a mirror nitpicking everything about the way you look. You’re either feeling too fat, or too skinny, or maybe there’s something about your face that you don’t like. You’re just not feeling pretty and it’s bringing you down. You think there’s something wrong with you and you may even feel worthless. Suddenly it’s starting to make sense that if you were not so fat, ugly, skinny, or had that big nose, you’d be happy. So you start to plot how to fix that. That’s when everything can go really, really wrong. People start to obsess about the way they look and before they know it, they develop body image disorders, eating disorders, anxieties, etc.  

That’s why it’s important that we deal with ugly days in a healthy way and take them for what they are – only ugly days. I really love Audrey Hepburn’s Quote – “Happy girls are the prettiest girls”. There is so much wisdom and truth in this simple sentence. If you think about it, have you been ever concerned about the way you look, when you were laughing with your friends, or playing with your kids, or doing the sport that you love? Of course not. During the happy moments of our lives, we all are the most beautiful and confident people in the world. And this is my quote: “happiness is confidence without effort”.  Confidence is what makes people charismatic and attractive, and that’s why you have to believe in yourself and be proud of who you are, right? Well, that can take a conscious effort at times, but when you’re happy, your’e already confident and charismatic by default. 

So the next time you have an ugly day, just realize that there is nothing wrong with YOU. Maybe you’re bored, or maybe you don’t like your current job. You are beautiful, you’re just not having fun for whatever reason. Try to think why you’re not having fun and what can you do to fix that. Just remember that all you are experiencing is nothing more than an ugly day and there are always so many happy days to come. 

Best,

Z.