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Confidence and Fitness - Coffee Talk
Blog | October 03, 2013
I haven’t done any coffee talk recently and since I was resting at home after shooting two kettlebell workouts, I decided to do a coffee talk and talk about confidence and fitness. It breaks my heart when I read comments or emails from young women that are struggling with their self confidence and blame their fitness and appearance for it. Don’t get me wrong, I know exactly how it feels when you are out of shape. I’ve been there. I know how it feels, when you think you’re out of shape, while many people around you are telling you otherwise. I know how powerful our mind can be to trick us and make us feel worthless. I also know how powerful and great our mind can be. Watch this coffee talk video, then read on, and if you feel like you want to contribute with your own opinion or thought, please leave a comment.
I believe that confidence has little to do with our appearance or our achievements. I know people that are happy and confident while living very modestly. I also know people who seem to have it all. They’re in great shape, have a lot of money and great success, yet they’re still not happy and lacking self confidence. Do you have any idea how many rich, and beautiful people who are depressed are out there?? It is insane for so many of us to even imagine someone who is in top shape, has a perfect face, and tons of money, being depressed about their life. Yet, it happens all the time. We tent to think that if we only were rich our problems would be gone and we would be happy forever. You don’t think that those rich depressed people thought the same thing, before they became successful? Of course they did. What a surprise it must have been after all those years of striving for better life, that wealth is not what makes them happy!
It’s the same when it comes to your fitness. It helps to be in great shape, just like it helps to be successful, however that by itself will not make you happy or confident if you won’t change your believes and your inner dialog with yourself. Also I want you to realize what a gift it is to have a goal that you can strive for, because the journey is the most exciting thing. You should always enjoy every moment that is between setting up your goal and achieving it. Once you achieve your goal you want to look back and be proud of all you went through, because the achievement itself won’t have enough power to keep you happy and fulfilled for a long time. You will always have to set a new goal and start a new exciting journey.
I have an exercise for you. Write down all of your negative believes and everything that you don’t like about yourself. You’ll be surprised what your mind can come up with. Then you have to make sure that you change every single negative belief into a positive one. I know that it’s not always easy, because you want to be honest with yourself, but being honest doesn’t mean cruel or negative. Instead of thinking: “I’m a lazy slob.” You can decide to think this: “I’m done with laziness, I’m a new person now and I know I can get into the best shape of my life.” See, you don’t need to lie to yourself about your past, but realize that it’s only your past. Every minute is an opportunity for a new life.
Enjoy your workouts and be excited for what’s to come!
Best,
Zuzka.
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No October newsletter?
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here it is 🙂 http://www.zuzkalight.com/blog/zcut-newsletter-october-2013/
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If you feel overwhelmed by your changes just take 1 positive step towards who you want to become. 1 commited step in the present makes future steps easier and easier.
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Very wise words, thank you Zuzka! I totally agree with you on it. We have to love ourselves for what we are and aim for better to improve every day! The best part of my day is the feeling after a workout no matter how fit I am, I know I’m doing it for my body and soul! XOXO
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So true again Zuzana. I really agree. Now i understand why, at the end of a big project, i was feeling so empty for a day or two!! The interesting part is definitly the journey!! now i set very high goals (in fitness it is to reach 6% bodyfat), to make sure i’ll always be on the journey ;))
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That low % of fat is REALLY not healthy! You will put your body in great risk by going that low. You will constantly be tired and agravated. Fat is not your enemy. As I stated in my post a bit up, im at about 18% body, and I’m a normal looking male. As a non-athelete, you really should not go below 15-16% as a man and not below 18-19% as a female (I can’t remember the exact numbers though).
Being healthy is not just shedding fat.
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I agree with you! I just watched the video below a couple of days ago on the same topic by a therapist. She is absolutely hysterical and a great speaker. It is only 20 min long, but it has helped reshape my “inner dialogue” like you were talking about 🙂 Thank you for Coffee Talk.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
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First off I think u r absolutely right zuzka!!! The journey is suppose to be the fun part and I know things seem to sometimes get in the way but that’s where all if ur awesome tips come into play. There is always time to give ur self a boost during the day I do it several times a day wether it be one of ur quick 3, 4, or 5 min workouts it makes me feel better and alert!! I can’t thank you enough for everything and I am so excited about my journey with you and becoming the best I can be overall! I just got done going ur workout 1 on ur new ab DVD wow what a killer I was so excited about it all day couldn’t wait to get home and try it and of course I loved it!!!! Thanks for everything xoxo
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Yes, Zuzka, you’re right. Every minute is an opportunity for a new life. Great inspirational thought to motivate me. Thanks for this post.
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Yes Z. we must all learn to enjoy the journey! So mote it be.
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I need help. I’ve been wanting to start working out a long time ago but everytime I tried one of Zuzka’s Zwow I feel sick, nausea, like I’m about to vomit. I wonder if any of you had an advice that could help me. Thanks!
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This almost brought me to tears – but I’m at work so I have to hold it together! I had an all out melt down because I have gained weight. I know why I am not losing but why I am gaining is beyond me. In a fit of depressed anger I journaled all of my negative thoughts. I literally wrote the words “I’m a fat slob” just as you said above. Except mine was without the positive rewording. I am ashamed to admit I feel this way but I am so mad for struggling and failing over and over. You are so right that happiness is an inner state and cannot come from outward changes. Rather, my outward appearance is a reflection of how I feel inside. I have always known that amd that is why I have beat myself up so awfully. That needs to change. The irony is if I have some self love and compassion I might achieve my goals sooner and with more joy along the way. So tonight I will go home and reword all my negative purging and finally try to shut up that awful voice in my head. Thanks so much Zuzka.