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How To Remove Those Annoying Habits that Haunt Us
Health | May 10, 2017
Guest Article by Dr. Karen Phillip
Most of us have them. Those annoying habits haunting and impeding our lives. Perhaps we drink more alcohol than we need, we may gamble and try to hide our losses, we lose our cool and snap at those who may not deserve our wrath, and we then hate ourself and feel overwhelmed not knowing how to control these behaviors.
Our behaviours are guided by our thoughts and emotions. We drink excessively often to escape something in our reality. However, we seem only to make the situation worse; it is never fixed through alcohol. We know this yet struggle to change this habitual behaviour.
Gambling is often the same. When we gamble, we tune out, forget what is going on in our chaotic world and just allow our mind to focus on something other than those issues. Then, of course, we all know this behaviour often leads to even more problems when we lose. That hole we are digging gets larger and deeper. We can then become angry at ourselves for not knowing how to change our thoughts and therefore our actions and behaviours.
We are good people. We want to do the right and honourable thing. We want to support those around us, act accordingly, work hard and be the best person we can be. What has happened? We feel lost, sometimes out of control, which leads us to a feeling of being worthless, weak and no good.
You are not alone, most all of us experience these issues at some time in our life. There are those that fold and give in, and there are those who step up, and learn ways to change these behaviours that are hurting us and those we love.
How can we adjust these annoying and destructive behaviors?
The sad fact is many people try a number of things to reduce or remove these annoying, destructive behaviours before they realise that hypnotherapy is the fastest, easiest, most effective and natural way to achieve the results you want. Your mind creates these thoughts that drive you to these behaviors. How about we adjust these thoughts to something positive for you instead?
What if I can show you a whole new way to get the result you want and all you need to do is sit back and relax. You don’t have to do any work at all. You can allow your mind to relax and escape those binding thoughts driving you to what I refer to as the ‘Yeah But’ part of you that you have been listening to for far too long. This ‘Yeah But’ part that encourages you to behave in this negative manner that you really want to escape from. The problem has been, until now, you just didn’t know how to silence it.
The Abolish Bad Habits session from Virtual Hypnotherapy is what we refer to as a parts therapy. There is a part of you that knows the right thing to do yet this ‘Yeah But’ part continues to whisper to you to indulge in these destructive behaviors that hurt you, damage you and your relationships.
I recently had a lovely woman, call her Jane, who wrote to me seeking help. She described she was early forties, married with two children. She worked part time and was unsettled with herself and life. She didn’t understand why she was drinking excessively and now she started playing poker machines when out at the club. She described how she was becoming angry with her husband and children, snapped at them with unkind comments and started to hate the person she was becoming.
Her life was good she explained, she lived in a nice home with no major financial worries. Jane was struggling with these behaviors that were now infringing in her life, her relationships and her happiness. She needed direction. She was confused.
Jane described how she had commenced drinking wine each evening to the stage of relying on almost a bottle each evening to help her relax. This was not helping anymore so she started to escape to the local club and played poker machines. She said she would get lost in another world before realising she had lost a good part of her weekly income before having to confess to her family money was short that week. Her husband started to become angry with her continued empty promises to refrain from drinking and gambling. Their relationship was becoming conflictual and unhappy. All Jane wanted to do was regain her self control. To stop these destructive behaviors affecting her family and her life. She described herself as ‘being lost, overwhelmed and always sad’ without a good reason why. This then escalated the guilt she felt, so she was plummeting into a terrible place of despair and sadness.
Jane’s story was not unique, I had heard similar many times before. It was also clear Jane was a really good person, loving, kind but struggling through some issues where she turned to alcohol and gambling to help her feel numb. I suggested the Abolish Bad Habits hypnotherapy audio session to alleviate those ‘Yeah But’ parts and enable Jane to extend her own powerful mind and thoughts to nullify that annoying destructive ‘Yeah But’ part.
Jane wrote to me a few weeks after doing the Abolish Bad Habits session and advised since doing the session she had stopped drinking and not been near a poker machine for weeks. She now started to feel in-control of herself again. She described how her mind had cleared so she could finally discuss with her husband what her problem was. Jane told me that after her mind cleared, she discovered she really wanted to return to college, obtain the degree she never completed before having the children, and go onto a career she dreamed of having. Realising what the issue had been, her husband was delighted to support her and to have his loving wife back. She enrolled to start study, which resulted in her feeling lighter, happier and more importantly ‘in-control’ of herself again.
The issue with so many of us, is when we are overwhelmed, we become highly emotional and confused. When highly emotional we lose the ability to think rationally; we think emotionally, which is neither logical nor balanced.
You can take control and dissolve these destructive habits. This will honestly be the best investment in your health and life you could make.
Please visit VirtualHypnotherapy.com and take back your control.
http://www.virtualhypnotherapy.com/abolish-bad-habits
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switzerland/, france
I wish I could send my husband!
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I wonder is this could also work on such habits that are just lazy but not necessarily “abuse” habits… such as napping instead of cleaning the house or going to the gym, putting off things that need to be done, overuse of social media “snooping” or even avoiding things with excuses of why your not doing what you shoot… like stuck in a rut.
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case pilote, martinique
Hi Missy.
If you need a nap then it’s because your body deserve it and yawning is a sign you need it. It has happened to me a lot lately and all I know is that if I don’t go for a little nap in the afternoon then I’m not good at doing anything since my energy level is low… (Well, I wish I could do that at work but unfortunately I can’t!) Maybe you just need to take a deep breath, have a look at what you could change in your daily habits and avoid wasting your energy. That’s what I’m trying to do.
Good luck.
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lake tahoe, nv, usa
Maybe you just need to feel excited about something. It sounds like a boredom to me. If you had something to be excited for, you wouldn’t want to nap or waste time on social media. You would get a really good sleep at night instead. I’ve been there 🙂
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Yes, you are right! Any advice on how to get that spark back… find my mojo again? Haha:-)
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Getting tired when you need to do something that you perceive a unpleasant or tedious is actually your brain protecting itself from change. Not to sound trite, but if you’ve ever heard of Cognitive Bias, there are dozens of phenomena every person’s brain does automatically as survival mechanisms. When you need to learn something new and unfamiliar, for instance, you may get the urge to run away or distract yourself before you start, and during, and I know I personally feel it once I break through the discomfort and start doing well. It’s just your million year old brain programming trying to keep you from doing something that could chance its survival. I personally push through it, and if I get a sugar craving (another phenomenon that occurs with intense concentration, because the brain runs on sugar. If it’s really tough intellectual work I will become dehydrated as well, and sometimes my blood sugar will drop quickly. I’m a diabetic, so I see it happening on my glucose tracking device.)
To get through the procrastination and “fudge factor,” I set a timer and set an amount of work to do, so I see the finish line, and I do a little every day until the brain interruptions go away, which they do eventually. If you have to learn something difficult in a short amount of time, you may have a ton of panic attacks and intense emotions, like being really discouraged and needing to cry. Once you know this, you see that it’s normal and goes away on its own. Kind of makes you feel more alive too hahaha.
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astoria, or, usa
I am so tempted to buy this. $14.99 is nothing if it actually makes some sort of positive change. I read this article after taking a shot of tequila and while eating chocolate bunny grahams. My husband and I are not in a good place and at the same time I drink more than I should, don’t go to bed until my son wakes at midnight and stay up eating crap. I don’t know which is the cause and which is the effect but my husband is bothered by my drinking (it’s only a few shots a night) and eating excessive sugar. He says he just wishes he could snap his fingers and it’s not fair that cookies or treats don’t last longer than a day or two and he hardly gets any and that it is our money I am wasting. I went on a sugar detox a couple years ago and felt great but I can’t even get past cutting out processed foods. She doesn’t mention eating in the article or on her website but can it also help that?? I feel that my binge eating and drinking have always gone hand in hand. Congrats on your engagement by the way! It’s about time 😉
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She (the dr.) does talk about sugar cravings in her Weight Loss video (in the weight loss package). I am interested about hypnotherapy too, that’s why I got a few of her audio – the one for studying (I am a student and I find it difficult to start studying, to stay focused, to finish what I have to study and it’s affecting my grades a lot – I used to be a straight A student by the time I finished high school but something happened along the way). I also got the Bad Habits audio, I too want to get rid of the sugar/junk food habit or procrastinating (I think the bad habits audio works pretty much for any kind of habit, even if she talks about the sugar part in the weight loss one). And the self confidence one, for various reasons/episodes in my life, I slowly lost confidence in myself, and I’m at the point where I’m not trusting myself with a lot of things and constantly sabotaging my goals. I used the Study audio last night (with my headphones, in bed, before falling asleep, it was pretty cool) because I’m in the exams period, and I did wake up this morning and started studying hehe. I did read a few about hypnotherapy yesterday, many people swear by it, so I decided to give it a try, I have nothing to lose, that’s why I got all that I needed from her programs. Give it a try, you never know if it works for you or not unless you try it. It’s a small price to pay, the 15 bucks and the 20 minutes of listening.
Good luck! 🙂