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If You Fall, You Have To Get Up!
Health | October 11, 2016
Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. I couldn’t express that better. How many times do I tell my ZGYM members that consistency is the key to success. The more often you engage in exercise, the faster it’s going to become an important part of your lifestyle and what seems like a chore will one day become a routine that will keep you stable. The way you’ll feel about exercise is going to be similar to the way you feel about taking a shower or brushing your teeth. That’s how I feel after years of regular exercise. There’s nothing that can stop me from my routine. I can have an argument with my boyfriend, have a really bad day at work, or just wake up with crappy mood for no reason. I will still want to do my workout.
The only thing that brings me down is the loss or the fear of losing someone close. I am never ready for that and you won’t be either. Last week we lost our beloved dog Santino. He’s been my family for 5 years. I have spent every single day with him. Both Jesse and I work from home so we really spend time with our dogs and we do think of them as our closest family members. We spent 4 days in a complete distress, worrying about Santino, praying for him and visiting him every 3-4 hours in the hospital, before he passed away. I cried my eyes out, didn’t sleep, didn’t eat and couldn’t care less about my work or exercising. I allowed myself to grieve.
You may not be completely functional for some time if life throws you a huge curve ball, but when you get yourself out of the worse despair, the habit you have already developed is going to be the one thing that will make you feel good again. You’ll feel like you need to get back to your old routine to feel normal. That’s how I feel.
Give yourself time to heal from a challenge you’ve been dealt, and don’t expect to be the old you right away. Just don’t lose a grip. By losing a grip, I mean being completely self destructive and using drugs and alcohol to deal with your emotions. You may not bounce back from that. I have a rule when it comes to alcohol. I don’t drink when I’m in a bad mood. Only when I celebrate, because it’s way too easy to slip and accidentally hit the rock bottom. I’ve seen it in my own family.
Try your best to work hard right now to create that deeply rooted healthy habit that can one day help you heal and get you back on track, because when you fall you have to get up.
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zagreb, croatia
I am so sorry for your lose, Zu.
Can’t even imagine the pain and the stress, and I don’t even want to try to imagine of loosing my family member.
I have one dog, she’s with me for the past five years, she is 6 years old now. I believe I have a lot of time with her, but when I hear a story like yours, it reminds me of the fact how valuable every day is.
Thank you for lifting us up, for sharing your thoughts, life, work and love with us.
xoxoxox
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Hey Zuz, I so feel you and understand you I can’t even describe. My dog is like a child to me. I love him more than myself. I lost my first dog 1996 when I was a lot younger, and second one died at 2010 he was sixteen years old. The same year my fiance left me and I lost my biological child. I was a mess, drugs and alcohol “helped” me through that time. At that time I was doing your workouts. I remember about the same time you also went through some tough times. I remember, because the only thing that kept me going were your workouts. And I watched all your videos and blogs. I was watching and crying all the time, I was seriously depressed. I manage somehow to get on my feet, don’t ask me how, but I can tell you , you helped more than you will ever know. Even if I was in bed whole day crying, there was one thing I had to do, your workout. Well , long story short, three weeks ago someone dear to me died and depression kicked again. But you know what, every morning I knew there is a workout to do. And sometimes I was crying all through the lunges and squats,and ballerinas and push ups. But I did it. And every morning I wake up, I know there is a new schedule and workout has to be done. If you fall, you have to get up. And if I didn’t have this habit – Zgym – I don’t know if I will be able to.
I am very very sorry about Santino. I was really hoping he will make it. My dog means a world to me, and one day I will have to say goodbye.
“You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.”
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Beautifully said
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curitiba, parana, brazil
Zu…if you need anything, plz just give a shout! We are far, we can not do much…but we are here! Thousands of people loving you and thinking of you and sending our best energy and thoughts to you! Be fine, be sweet, be yourself…a true a warrior! You know what I am talking about! See you and take care girl! Love to you all…
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switzerland/, france
that is exactly where I feel right now. I have built such a habit to workout, that now that I can’t do the usual things I am in dispare to find alternatives, I miss working out, to be out of breath, to be sweating, to have that feeling at the end “done, yay”.
I have found a series of alternatives moves I can do, and also thanks to the community, I have now ideas how to rock it with my constraints.
As for alcohol, there was a time of stressful period at work, where I had to drink a glass of wine when coming home to really have a mental break! it worked, but I set the rule that if I can do without, I would give the priority on better safer/sounder options to have that mental break.I have therefore cheap non-tasty red wine…so that at least I am not attracted by its taste.
on a funny note, when I got my surgery the other day, they made me inhale laughing gas (doesn’t remove pain though) and I thought…”man, I could picture someone getting addicted to this!!”. I didn’t laugh, but I became chatty and joyful and it felt like when you drink alcohol and have no inhibition any longer, ha, ha. I am glad I was still able to behave 🙂
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seattle, washington
A lot of good advice in this. Drinking when sad only leads to more drinking. Work made me sane after I lost both my Dad and Mom. You and others helped me cope. Still your loss brought it all back. Every day is up hill a little bit. Exercise is a way to move forward. My worry for you is what if it had lasted weeks and not days.
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Heartbroken for you 🙁 I believe dogs are angels and every moment we get with them is a blessing. I heard a story on Oprah’s Supersoul Sunday about a woman who lost her baby hours after the baby was born. Instead of falling into devastation, she instead focused on being grateful for the small amount of time she was able to hold her baby girl in her arms. I’ve found that to be a good way to deal with loss. After I lost my dog suddenly to cancer a few years ago I found it helpful to focus on being grateful for the time I had with him and not that fact that I lost him so soon. I now gratefully have another fur baby in my life and I try to always be present and enjoy every moment I have with her while I have her. Sending you light and love 🙂
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I send you all my strength and love Zuzka.
Life is a form of energy, Santino is still with you, is energy has changed, for sure, but he’s with you. He is in your heart, thoughts and, most of all, spiritually. We are all expressions of a higher force, whatever name you want call It.. I like to call it Mother Nature. Those who believe are able to love a dog or other forms of life as they love a human being, because we all come from that same Mother. And we are all a part of that same energy, flowing and changing, but alive. The love you feel and will always feel for him is just a show of that. Use that love as a power source to give you the energy to overcome his physical disappearance from your life and embrace the beauty of his present life within your heart.
Love to all
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ohio, usa
So sorry for your loss Zuzka and Jesse. Sending all of you loving thoughts and prayers 🙁
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I’m sorry for your loss it’s hard to loose a loyal friend like a pet that is always there for you. I have a cat and he’s my best friend. Thank you for the motivating words. I hope you are feeling better soon