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Getting Back After Falling Down
Fitness | September 03, 2018
At some point, we’re all going to find ourselves falling off the wagon. We’ve set up a routine, and through the workings of unexpected events we wind up breaking it. As a result, we end up feeling stuck in the chaos of uncertainty. We don’t know how to dust ourselves off and resume the routine. So how do we get back up after falling down? Let’s explore that today. I’m going to be speaking about this when it comes to fitness. These points can also be applied to other things in life, too, such as goals or work. But let’s stick to fitness for the sake of consistency.
The first tip is to cancel out any negative self-talk. For some people, there’s shame in not doing what you “were supposed” to do. (Working out.) And in that shame, we bully ourselves. We speak critically; we compare our motivation or willpower to someone else’s. It’s a spiral of self-demolition that leaves us being crushed by our own worst critic: ourselves. That’s why it’s important to cancel out this type of communication. Immediately deny it. If even a single criticism comes out, speak to it. Tell it, that’s not true. Whatever you do, stop yourself from being a bully.
The second tip is to take a step back and figure out what made you fall in the first place. Was it something beyond your control, like an emergency? If it’s something you had not anticipated, it’s all the more reason not to get angry or bitter about the fall. Just know that it was a rare interference that won’t be happening regularly. A few days ago I lost my 4 legged best friend Charlie after 11 years (picture above). It was a shock, I didn’t expect him to go this soon and I’m completely heartbroken. If you have experienced a loss of a loved one, you know what I’m talking about. I’ve been eating the most crappy foods, drinking way too much wine in the attempt to take the edge off, and I haven’t exercised for over a week since he became really sick. Grief is stronger than any of your healthy habits you’ve been cultivating for years. I know it’s only a temporary state, and I don’t feel guilty or mad at myself at all. I know I will pick myself up again when the time comes.
However, if it was something you could have controlled, you have the option of learning from it. For example, if your fall was the result of having a busy schedule for the day- work, errands, family, social gatherings, appointments- then put on your thinking caps and adapt. If you’re short on time, but still want to invest progress towards your fitness goals, then get smart. Shorten your workout, but make it more intense. I have tons of quick workouts at the ZGYM that are anywhere as short as 5 minutes to as much as 10. And that being said, most of my workouts are around 20 minutes; nowhere near or more than a full hour. My philosophy is all about training with the maximum amount of effort for the least amount of time for optimal results. That means no second is wasted. (If you’re interested in this kind of training, then I suggest you sign up for the ZGYM if you’re not already a member.)
Another option is to schedule in your workout. Get out your planner and write it down at the best time possible. Treat it like you would any other appointment.
And finally, there’s good old-fashioned time management. It’s not exactly glamorous, let alone comfortable, but if you have to wake up earlier than you’re used to for your training, then so be it. If the goal is truly that important to you, you’ll find a way to make the earlier call time a part of your lifestyle. On the flipside, you could also fit it in during the evening; some people choose this an alternative. If there are any “gaps” during the day where you can spare 20 minutes to train, use it to your advantage! Play around with the times and find your perfect fit.
The third and final tip is to reflect upon your goals and intentions. Remember the first tip about canceling out negative self-talk? Now turn it to positive self-talk. Be your own best coach. Instead of saying to yourself, “I’m back to square-one now. I skipped a workout. I’m bad. I can’t do this. It’s impossible. I’m not like that person who has the freedom and discipline to be able to do this everyday,” tell yourself instead, “OK. So I skipped a day. Big deal. Tomorrow, it’s business as usual. Since I didn’t do anything yesterday, I can make up for it on my rest day, if I feel up for it. I’ve got this.”
Another thing to is to think about the goal. How realistic is it? Are you expected miraculous results within a short amount of time? Don’t assume you’re going to be cover-model ready for a beach vacation in just under a week. You’re also not going to be breaking world records at the gym if you’ve only been at it for a month. Have realistic expectations and goals! And make sure the life you’ve created to support them is sustainable. If hours upon hours of working out and extreme, socially distancing eating are what it takes, then you may want to reevaluate things. Look online and you’ll see countless accounts from people who have gone to extremes. They will all tell you the things they did couldn’t be done forever. Some of them may have gotten serious health ailments as a result. I’m not telling you it’s impossible to achieve your fitness goals, but you also need to understand that nothing happens overnight. It’s a long process; a journey. And during that time, you’re going to make mistakes. Learn from them. There will be parties, holidays, and emergencies. That’s life! You can’t control everything. And the things you can control shouldn’t be ruled under an iron fist. Be flexible, but otherwise consistent. Don’t beat yourself up like a locker-room bully. You’re better than that. And if you’re in shock of having been off the wagon for a long time, welcome to the club! You’re not alone.
What matters most is that you get back up and continue on.
Private Member |
warsaw, poland
I was practically grew up among dogs… they have always been present in my home… and I understand you Zuzka very well. When a family member leaves you forever, it always affects you, in one way or another. And yes – let’s be the best friends for ourselves, especially at such difficult times.
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yilan city, taiwan, taiwan
So sorry for your loss Zuzka, I have 2 dogs right now and lost my childhood dog, so I can relate. As for grief and falling off the wagon, I can relate too. A year and a half ago my sister in law killed herself and my 12-year-old niece with a gun (my brother found them). My daughter who is 33 days older than her cousin, were very close, so she also has taken the tragedy pretty hard. Needless to say, I went from working out progressing towards advance to now feeling more comfortable in intermediate. I nearly canceled my membership but tried to just go through the motions anyway, and bought myself sliders and a bigger kettlebell for Christmas. My daughter hit puberty during this time and she and I gained several kg. Her stress release was baking (she’s a great baker) and we indulged-a lot. So yes, I am not overly critical with myself even though I have been a bad example to my kid. The good thing is my kid has started Zuzka’s bunny slope workouts and we have started eating cleaner starting THIS week, coincidentally. All of that to say Zuzka, I understand your feelings of shock, of needing to understand why. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your grief and humanity by “falling off the wagon” publically.
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This comes to the very right time- I have missed 3 days of working out due to a trip to a wedding. I drank alcohol at the wedding party and ate (way too much) crappy foods the 2 days after. Also I didn’t feel like working out due to hurting elbows; probably as I have put too much pressure on them while working out without giving them breaks to adjust to the high impact. Now I am going to do “fat burn No 2X”, and plan to spend additional time for the “upper body inferno #2”, trying to get back to the old track.
I am sorry for your immense loss, no words are able to explain the pain when someone loses a family member.
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I’m deeply sorry for your Charlie <3 May he rest in doggie heaven
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berkel en rodenrijs, netherland
My dear Zuzka, I am so sorry for your loss!!! I completely know how broken you are feeling without Charlie. He became an ANGEL which stays deep in your heart FOREVER!!! I wish I could take the horrible pain away from you and give you your best friend back!!! Sending you big hug!!! Take care darling Zuzka!!!
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Hi Zuzka, I’m sooo sorry for your loss of Charlie. Take care of yourself & keep strong!
Lots of love, Cinthia
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Dear Z, I am so sorry to hear about Charlie. We have a dog that looks a bit like Charlie so we have always enjoyed seeing him. We recently lost one of our cats after 8years, my sweet baby boy Biscuit, a difficult and unexpected loss to illness as well, so I have been in a different place than usual myself, trying my best to be easy with my self. Thanks for these thoughts on turning self talk from negative to positive, as that is something I have been working on. I send peaceful calming wishes for your difficult days ahead.
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czech republic
Oh, Charlie. 🙁 I was so afraid the article 🙁 I know how connected you were to him. I cant imagine the day I will have to say goodbye to my dog Miki. He is almost 8 and I started to find some grey hair 🙁 So sorry for Charlie 🙁 Be strong Z. Love you!
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nanaimo, british columbia, canada
Great, great, great post!!! I am so sorry for the loss of Charlie…I’ve always enjoyed seeing your dogs wandering around your videos. Our dog of 8 years is currently injured and we are not hopeful he will recover. Thank you for the very applicable and well-timed article. I have always been really good at extremes and self-bullying and I am struggling to stop. Your tips will be helpful! Take care of yourself!
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canada
Thankyou for your kind words of advice and support, I really needed this right now. I’ve fell off the ‘eating regime’ wagon much too much lately, and continuously beat myself up and strugglewith the food side of things. I am and will continue working on changing my mental attitude and I know With consistency I will succeed. I am so sorry for your loss, I know how devastating losing a doggy family member can be. It leaves the deepest kind of hole. They are here for a short time yet teach us and give us so much. Time, comfort and healing to you.